
I respect you too much to offer any lame excuses for not blogging in a while...so I'll give you a non-lame one: I just don't blog when I don't lose. Gosh, I didn't even do a one-year bandiversary post. Man, I'm a slacker.
Some friends of mine, a married couple, have just moved back to Cali from Oregon. I'm soooooooo glad, because 1) they're great friends, 2) their son is the same age as my youngest, and 3) they're both banded.
{Sidebar: We had them over for Superbowl. It was really tough to plan a menu. It's the biggest snacking day of the year. My poor non-banded husband.}
They were banded about 6 months after me so, naturally, look to me for advice and whatnot. He has said on occasion that I'm "the poster child" for Lapband. I know I've told him that it's been pretty easy...but I'm starting to wonder if that's being misinterpreted. Not just by him, but anytime I may tell people that. My husband even pointed out that I may not be giving myself enough credit.
"Easy" may lead people to believe that I'm living the dream, eating anything I want and losing weight. The reality is, the band (at optimal level) has just made it easier to make better choices. For instance, macaroni and cheese. Two years ago, ask anyone who had ever met me what my favorite food is and they'd say mac 'n' cheese. I ate a box for a meal two or three times a week. (3 boxes is 3,690 calories...that's a pound people!) The band has made it so if I want to eat mac, I must take small bites and chew. And frankly, it just doesn't taste as good when you have to chew it, so I just don't even bother it at all. If I make some for my family, I may put a teeny bit on my plate and eat it if I get to it.
And it may be tough to deny myself something that I know is tasty but once I decide not to eat it, that's it, decision made. I have not once said "Man, I sure wish I had eaten that cheesecake yesterday."
I suppose part of the problem is whenever I'm talking to people about it, it's in a social setting and I'm probably grazing and drinking something alcoholic. Hmmmmmm.
So I don't want to lie and tell people it's been hard. I've had my ups, downs, plateaus and oh, hell, gallstones (ouch) and gallbladder removal. I must accredit much of my easiness metering to my attitude. I am a believer in that life is not only what happens to you but how you react to it.
(Don't worry, I'm not walking around telling skinny people it's easy. This is only in conversations with WLS patients or candidates.)
I'm going to really think about how I portray my journey to people when it comes up. Maybe I use the word "easy" because I want people to feel encouraged and empowered. But I might be doing them a disservice. What do you think?
Bandsters, tell me how your journey has been so far using only a few lines.